I might be a day late, but I want to voice my frustrations with the way Father's Day gets treated among the black community. If you were anywhere near Facebook or Twitter yesterday, I'm sure you saw the countless tweets and statuses from scorned children and baby mamas. The way some of these women were talking you would've thought it was devil worship day!
I understand that a lot of children in black households don't grow up with their father around. I also get that a lot of black men don't always do the best job at maintaining a good relationship with the mother of their child. But not everybody experienced that type of upbringing. While I don't fault anyone for having ill feelings for an absent father or neglectful baby daddy, but do those frustrations really need to be broadcasted on the one day that good father's are supposed to be celebrated?
Then for the baby mama's mad because their childs father aint sh*t, I got a harsh truth for you; he probably wasn't much of sh*t during the period he was just your boyfriend. Why have a baby with a man who's already shown you he could care less about your feelings? Having a child is not a relationship lifeline, it's a life long commitment that you better try damn hard to make with someone who is at least man enough to hold up their end of the bargain even if your relationship ends.
Father's Day is not a sequel to Mother's Day. It's a day to find that uncle, brother, neighbor, teacher, coach or, God willing, your own dad and tell them thank you for being the man in your life. And if you happen to be one of the people who can't relate to having an influential man in your life, then for the sake of all the good dad's, find a better medium to vent your frustrations and let these men have their day. They earned it.